Phenomenological Studies: Exploring Someone's Reasons for Doing Ghosting
Abstract
This study examines the reasons why someone ghosts, which is the act of ending a relationship suddenly without explanation and withdrawing from all communication. In the era of social media, ghosting has emerged (trending) as a contemporary term for a phenomenon in the real or virtual world that is increasingly growing and believed by the wider community. Although ghosting generally occurs in romantic relationships, it also occurs in other forms of relationships, such as friendship, work, business, and group assignments. Someone who ghosts will suddenly stop communicating without explanation. At the same time, the victim feels a loss of communication for no apparent reason, resulting in different consequences for both parties involved. This study used a qualitative research method and found that there are several reasons why someone ghosts, namely avoiding attachment, relationship incompatibility, avoiding conflict, and relationship dissatisfaction. These findings can provide a better understanding of the ghosting phenomenon and help people understand the reasons behind this behavior.
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26. Retana-Franco, B. E., & Sánchez-Aragón, R. (2020). The impact of emotional attachment and culture on the breakup strategies perceived by the abandoned. Acta Colombiana de Psicología, 23(1), 66-77.
27. Kreager, D. A., Cavanagh, S. E., Yen, J., & Yu, M. (2014). “Where have all the good men gone?” Gendered interactions in online dating. Journal of Marriage and Family, 76(2), 387-410.
28. Daraj, L. R., Buhejji, M. R., Perlmutter, G., Jahrami, H., & Seeman, M. V. (2023). Ghosting: Abandonment in the Digital Era. Encyclopedia, 4(1), 36-45.
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“Phenomenological Studies: Exploring Someone’s Reasons for Doing Ghosting”, Soc. sci. humanities j., vol. 8, no. 09, pp. 5111–5117, Sep. 2024, doi: 10.18535/sshj.v8i09.1355.
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